The resilience of Vilma Kari: Standing strong against hate

NEW YORK CITY—In this edition of the Fil-Am Connection, we take a moment to honor and reflect on the journey of Vilma Kari, a resilient woman and a victim of a hate crime that shook our community in 2021.

At 65 years old, Tita Vilma was attacked on her way to church near Times Square, marking a harrowing day that still resonates with many of us. 

Three years have passed, and on Feb. 21, justice was finally served when Brandon Elliot, her assailant, was convicted of a first degree hate crime and sentenced to 15 years in prison.

Tita Vilma’s story is a stark reminder of the challenges faced by many in our Filipino and broader Asian communities. She stands as one of the first amongst us to see justice prevail, marking a significant milestone in our collective fight against Asian hate.

Despite the closure that the conviction might bring, the emotional scars from Tita Vilma’s ordeal remain. She expressed both surprise and graciousness as Elliot sought her forgiveness, choosing to forgive him while acknowledging that the pain and fear from her traumatic experience persist.

On Feb. 21, Vilma Kari faced her attacker, Brandon Elliot, with loved ones and supporters by her side. The courtroom was packed with people showing solidarity against hate. Tita Vilma’s story is a powerful symbol of resilience, justice and community unity in the fight against discrimination. CONTRIBUTED

In response to this heinous act, Tita Vilma’s daughter, Elizabeth Kari, has been a beacon of support and empathy. Moved by her mother’s plight, Elizabeth founded AAP(I Belong), a nonprofit dedicated to combating hate and racism. Her initiative underscores the importance of community vigilance and proactive engagement in supporting one another and ensuring our collective safety.

As we celebrate Tita Vilma’s long-awaited justice, let us also use this moment to galvanize our community into action. We must not be bystanders but active participants in protecting and looking out for each other. I encourage you to connect with Elizabeth and contribute to the cause by visiting aapibelong.org to learn how you can make a difference.

Vilma Kari bravely confronted her attacker for the first time since the 2021 assault as she delivered her impact statement. She recounted the harrowing events of the attack, the subsequent challenges and pain she endured, the profound impact on her identity and community, and her arduous journey towards healing. CONTRIBUTED

Furthermore, let this chapter in Tita Vilma’s life prompt us to reflect on the importance of not living in complacency. If you witness a hate crime, take action by calling the police and seeking help from those around you. Documenting the incident is useful, but intervening safely to prevent harm is paramount.

Our thoughts and prayers are with Tita Vilma and all victims of hate crimes as they navigate the path of healing and continue with their lives.

Vilma’s daughter, Elizabeth Kari’s statement sheds light on the ongoing process of recovery for their family. As they look to the future, they express hope that Elliot, who has shown remorse for his actions, will receive the necessary support while in prison to break free from the cycle of hate. CONTRIBUTED

The sentencing of Mr. Elliot in Manhattan criminal court is a significant moment for Vilma Kari and the broader fight against Asian hate in America. While we celebrate this step towards justice, Tita Vilma’s bravery in confronting her attacker and sharing her story is a powerful reminder of the ongoing struggle against prejudice and discrimination. Her courage, and the support of her daughter Elizabeth, inspire us all to raise our voices and commit to building a more inclusive, compassionate society.

In an effort to raise further awareness, The Outstanding Filipinos in America (TOFA) produced a public service announcement in 2021, featuring Elizabeth and other victims of Asian hate and community members.

This video offers a poignant look into the reality of Asian hate in America, providing viewers with a deeper understanding of the issue at hand.

Let us stand together in solidarity, supporting each other in the face of hate and discrimination, to ensure a safer and more inclusive community for all.

Elton Lugay is a veteran correspondent and columnist for the USA bureau of Inquirer.net. He is a community ally and a longtime event organizer based in New York. He can be reached at [email protected].